Handling Cluster B
Slocum Consulting can help you figure out your options to handle the high-conflict person in your life.
Is it Cluster B?
Does your father only give out compliments with a backhanded edge? Does your mother always find a way to set you against other family members? Does your spouse go hot and cold, loving you one day and berating you the next? Does your coworker tell you that you’re her best friend, yet you find that she’s talking you down to colleagues behind your back?
Do you feel like you have to walk on eggshells to get through the day with someone close to you?
You may be dealing with a high-conflict person. Very often, such difficult people exhibit behaviors typical of what are called Cluster B personality disorders. Personality disorders are a kind of mental illness that is more severe and enduring than, for example, intermittent depression or anxiety.
Cluster B personality disorders are usually very resistant to treatment. While there are some exceptions, if you have such a person in your life, it’s unlikely he’s going to change or “recover”.
That may be why you’re here.
You’ve tried to love him; you’ve tried to be a good friend to her; you’ve forgiven and forgotten. Over, and over, and over again.
And nothing has changed.
There are ways out of this. If you’re ready to move past walking on eggshells, I can help. Dealing with a high-conflict person will not be easy. You will have to consider options from enforcing boundaries to limiting or ending contact.
This may be one of the hardest things you ever have to do. I know, because I had to do it. I suspect that you’ll look back on it the way I do: As one of the best things you have ever done to improve your life.
This part is important. I am not a mental health professional. What I offer you is not therapy or any kind of mental health services. You can think of it as consulting, coaching, or just as conversation with a knowledgeable and experienced person who made these changes and improved his life.
Are you ready to take the next step to freedom from abuse? Let’s talk.
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